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Navigating the Rough Road of Doubt: Interview with Author Andrea Palplant Dilley Posted: 03 Apr 2012 01:22 PM PDT   Are you (or someone you know) going through a season of spiritual doubt? I highly recommend you pick up Andrea Palplant Dilley's new memoir, Faith and Other Flat Tires: Searching for God on the Rough Road of Doubt. Learn More In our interview Andrea shares how we can navigate seasons of intense doubt; how we can support others who struggle with doubt; and how doubts can ultimately lead to a stronger and more vital faith. -Adam Forrest, Zondervan   ZBLOG: Your book title is Faith and Other Flat Tires, so I have to ask: How is faith like a flat tire? ANDREA: Faith—at least my experience of faith—is fragile. It's flawed and breakable. I don't think I'm alone in my experience, either. Many of us go through phases in our spiritual life where that "faith tire" that was moving us along the road at a strong, fast clip seems to go flat suddenly and leave us stranded. We need help. We need fresh air, so to speak. For me, that faith tire went flat for about two years while I took a hiatus from the church. This book tells the story of how I got back on the road and learned to live with my doubts as part of my ongoing faith journey.   ZBLOG: People sometimes ask you what you would have changed about your upbringing. You write, They want to know what would have kept me inside the church when I wanted to step outside. (Subtext: What might they do to keep their kids inside the faith?) I tell them, "Nothing." So what do you recommend to someone who's watching a loved one struggle with their faith? Andrea Palplant Dilley ANDREA: When I was going through my skeptic phase as a teenager, my parents couldn't do anything to stop me. But they did the only thing anybody can do—they were present to my pilgrimage. So for those who have kids or other loved ones going through a period of doubt, I would recommend the same: Be present. Walk with that person. Listen to them. Hear their doubts and affirm their search. Keep the dialogue going. Share your heart, but in a loving way that doesn't push that person further out on the margins.   ZBLOG: You once told a class of philosophy students, "It's better to struggle as an active thinker than to become a passive Christian." What did you mean by "passive Christian"? And do you stand behind that statement today? ANDREA: To me, a passive Christian is someone who accepts Christian belief without ever examining it. At the time that I made this quoted statement, I was 21 years old and more interested in "the search" than I was interested in answers. So in that sense, I don't entirely agree with the statement, which can be used as permission for perpetual non-commitment. On the other hand, I do believe that it's better to actively question faith—in a spirit of seeking the truth—than it is to passively accept the doctrines and enigmas of faith. Anger at God is healthier than indifference toward God. ZBLOG: I was struck by the note you once inscribed in a wedding guestbook. You tell the story here: [The pastor] asked me… "What is your religious affiliation?" With almost involuntary impulse, I wrote down "Christian." But then, dissatisfied with my answer, I called the pastor back. Taking the pen from his hand, I added a qualifier so that my entry read, "Melancholy Christian." Let's say you're holding the guest book again today. Do you write the same answer, or something different? ANDREA: I would write the exact same thing, no question about it. 'Melancholy' might have negative connotations for some people, but for me, it's the best word to describe the experience of unsatiated longing, the gut feeling that what I yearn for at a deep spiritual level is not yet mine to have. Christianity is in part a pilgrimage. Right now, we exist in a partial state of separation, brokenness, and searching. Although we're living life fully in the present, we're also waiting and longing for the return of God. Heaven is still to come. That's what "melancholy Christian" means to me.   ZBLOG: What do you recommend to someone who has God questions they can't answer? Learn More ANDREA: Don't settle into your doubt—push into it. Try to see it as an outgrowth of your longing for God. Sift through evidence and ideas. Talk to people. Read books. Keep wrestling. Finally, bring your questions inside the space of the church. Stay in community with other pilgrims. And try to accept those questions that you can't find answers to. The German poet Ranier Maria Rilke wrote in his Letters to a Young Poet, "Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."   Learn more about Andrea Palplant Dilley's book Faith and Other Flat Tires: Searching for God on the Rough Road of Doubt. Read an excerpt from Faith and Other Flat Tires, "An Unexpected Blessing (Or, The Hitchhiker and the Blue Jeans)."   (This post does not represent the views of Zondervan or any of its representatives. The writer's personal opinions are shared only for information purposes. Want to receive more thought-provoking and spiritually enriching posts? Subscribe to Zondervan Blog.)

What if God was Your Best Friend? [Excerpt by Wes Yoder] Posted: 03 Apr 2012 09:51 AM PDT   Excerpt from Wes Yoder's Bond of Brothers: Connecting with Other Men Beyond Work, Weather and Sports (eBook).    Learn More If it is entirely true — and it is — that God, who now lives within me, knows all my thoughts and loves me anyway, I have to say two things: God suddenly has become my best friend, and perhaps he was all along the way. I can fear his friendship, which I will do if I do not believe he is good, or I can welcome him and start living an unbelievable life with a new partner and friend. He knows all my sorrows and everything else within me. His Spirit is the searchlight that knows and sees all. And his Spirit makes of my life a light that illuminates dark places so others can find their way. So imagine what might happen if both you and your wife have the same best friend — God — and quit hoping you won't disappoint each other because you know and accept that you will, and because you know your best friend will be there to help you sort out the mess. Your life would be different, and perhaps you, too, would have a hard time remembering why you thought you needed [a legalistic and perfectionistic] religion when you have a perpetual invitation to enjoy a relationship with God. - Wes Yoder Abraham fellowships with the LORD in Genesis 18. Also see John 15:15   Q: How would your life change if you considered God your friend? Share your comments on this post. -Adam Forrest, Zondervan   Learn More Learn more about Bond of Brothers (eBook)   Other Posts You May Like Kneeling before the King via Wes Yoder Build a Fire: Manhood that's Honest, Strong, and ... Weak? via Wes Yoder   (Some styling above is a web-exclusive feature not included in the text of Bond of Bros. Image attribution: "Abraham and Three Angels" by Rembrandt, c. 1646 [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons. This post does not represent the views of Zondervan or any of its representatives. The writer's personal opinions are shared only for information purposes. To receive new Zondervan Blog posts in your reader or email inbox, subscribe to Zondervan Blog.)

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